Torn Earlobe from Participating in Physical Education!

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In my almost two decades of being in childcare education, I have not come across a child having torn earlobe from participating in physical education in the UK. My aim on this topic is to bring a balance equation from both a professional and parent perspective. Research shows no incident or accidents of pupils wearing earrings or studs has occurred during physical activity or swimming. I will be glad to be proven wrong, and the evidence based on a real ratio. The keyword such as ‘Serious accidents have occurred as a result of contact between pupils wearing earrings or studs’are included in school policies and educational establishments., but none on a real accident that occurred. It bothers me that the same swimming pool the public swims is the same pool our children’s activity takes place. The public is not told to take off their earring before swimming, just a thought. In a nursery school setting, I can understand toddlers pulling other toddlers earring, which can result to torn earlobe. However, a more realistic explanation should be provided as to why children in most UK primary schools are being instructed not to wear stud earring.

The Department of Education suggests that ‘Common sense should be used in assessing and managing the risks of any activity.’ Some UK schools have lost common sense when it comes to the health and safety of children activities. The UK Health and Safety website supports this on pages 9-11 of their newsletter.

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Parents are baffled as to why this rule exist and have asked questions on various parenting forums on if a child has being hurt from wearing stud earring. As a parent, I have experienced this too, thou the earring was the tiniest nose stud. I believe it is more unhygienic to keep having the earring taken in and out of the ears due to an infection transferred from day to day hand germs. As a childcare professional I understand rules of risk assessment are put in place to prevent any litigation. However these rules have to be based on common sense, cultural diversity and respect for the choice of parents for their children.

The Act of Skin Discrimination in Children

It is a well-known fact that children do not learn how to discriminate or do they identify with skin colour discrimination. Mostly, children under the age of five doing discriminate based on the colour of the skin. Specifically, children under the age of three years, do not know what colour discrimination is because they do not see the skin colour difference. It can be augured that this is based on a child growing up in a mixed and diverse environment of skin colour. This argument can also be built on a child who has not been groomed or reared to identify skin colour from a very young age.

How do children learn or pick up skin colour discrimination? Having worked with diverse children and families over the years, I can suggest that children learn skin discrimination consciously (directly) or unconsciously (indirectly) from their parents or selected career.

renny adejuwon|children mindChildren learn skin discrimination consciously from their parents/carers through:

  • Words: e.g. ‘why are you playing with that black child?’ ‘Do not play with that child, you are different and do not look like them.’
  • Actions: e.g. not inviting the brown skin children to birthday parties or not going to the white skin children birthday parties.

Children learn skin discrimination unconsciously from their parents/carers through:
Listening to adult conversations; e.g., ‘I do not want to send my child to that school because they have a majority of black children.’ ‘I don’t know why the school is taking in more ethnic minority children. They have come to take over.’ Watching how their parents react to adult with different ethnic background: e.g. excluding them from school events, ignoring them in a group conversation, wanting to shut them up or down during conversations, indicating their contribution is not important or relevant.

A conversation took place between a mother and her 10-year-old son:

SON: my friend told me I was treated badly by my teacher.
MUM: what do you mean?
SON: my friend say’s my teacher was racist towards me because he chooses only the Caucasian children to play for the football team.
MOTHER: that does not mean he is racist. Have you been chosen to play for the school football team before?
SON: Yes
MOTHER: so your teacher is giving other children the opportunity to play for the school team. Of cause, some people will treat you differently, brown skin or Caucasian, but be aware that people are either good or bad not the colour of their skin.
SON: my class teacher is white, and she treats me nice and is fair.
MOTHER: you see, it is the person that matters not the colour of the skin. There are brown skin people, who also badly treat other people.

The conversation above could have been so different between the mother and her son. The mother had the opportunity to teach an entirely different seed of thought into her son, but instead, she gave a balanced approach to human behaviour rather than the colour of the human skin.

skin discriminationIn the movie 42, there was a scene where one of the characters, Pee Wee Reese, thanked the main character, Jackie Robinson, for helping get over his bias of skin colour discrimination. This scene took place in one of the many baseball stadiums used in the movie. However, on this occasion, a boy was sitting in the crowd with his daddy. When the dad and the crowd started chanting racist words towards the main character, who is the only brown skin player of the baseball team, the boy just copied his father. The character Pee Wee went on to hug Jackie Robinson and shook his hands. This action stopped some of the crowd from shouting out racist words. In particular, the boy’s face changed like he was thinking about his actions and why he copied his dad in the first instance.

This sense happens consciously or unconsciously in everyday life between parents and their children. If it is not challenged, it tends to grow and develop, and the seed of skin discriminations continues from one generation to the next. It still baffles me how a person can just be judged based on the colour of their skin; I do not get it. Watch your behaviour and your mouth around your children, as the saying goes, action speaks louder than words.

END NOTE: skin discrimination crosses ethnic, cultural or country boundaries.

Is Home Schooling an Option?

It has been said that home schooling gives parents more control over the influences that affect their children. With home schooling, a parent alone can decide what the child needs to do or learn. Tailoring the teaching program to suit the lifestyle, needs and interests of the child are among the most obvious options for home schooling. A child that is home schooled has the benefit of focusing more hours to the subject that may be difficult without additional pressure. Learning time is spread out based on the needs, abilities and interests of the child. The child receives more quality time in a familiar and homely environment, free from peer pressure and making choices and decisions based on needs.

Competition is great for children, but when it comes to home schooling, this is limited or does not occur. This is also the case of interaction with peer groups. When it comes to teaching style, home schooling is very one way centred. Teaching is always focused on how children learn best, which can be great. However, it reduces the child’s ability to process information in different ways that the child is not used to. A child that learns through moving objects or kinesthetic may find it challenging processing information that may include discussion or social activity.

home schooling| rent adejuwonWhen children are home schooled it allows parents the control over the moral, beliefs and ideologies instilled in their child. From a parent’s standpoint, this ensures there is no confusion in the child’s mind and no variation between what is being taught and what is being practised.

Schools are an excellent environment for children to develop different views, interact and learn something different outside their circle. However, parents that opt for home schooling are disillusioned with the system. They believe that children are being pushed too hard or too little. However, when children are in an excellent school system, they are welcome to try different experiences, activities, discipline and ethics.

There are pros and cons of homeschooling your child. Is it an option? Yes, it is if you have the time, lifestyle, finances, ability and interest to follow through with the education. After all, nobody can understand or appreciate your child as much as you.

Why M.O.T.H.E.R’s Day?

A day set aside to celebrate women becoming a mother either through childbirth or adoption is a day not to be taken lightly. Not all female choose to become a mother. Some not by choice while other choose not to be and who are we to judge.

www.rennyadejuwon.comBeing a mother is not an easy task as the onus falls on her to have the responsibility of the child, in her care, for the rest of her life. The burden falls on her firstly, because of the biological attachment to the child for nine months. A fetus is growing in her and developing from egg to a full grown human baby. The female then goes through the pushing out of this full grown baby through a path way that is had to believe such will come out. During this process, the opportunity of being called a mother can be short lived, labelled or realised. It depends on the result gotten from seconds, minutes or hours of child birth either through still birth, losing the child; a special or learning difficulty need; or a healthy baby. She becomes responsible for this child, for the rest of her life. With the title, responsibilities such as:

Maintaining: the child in your care is part of being a mother. Maintain means to keep in the right condition, keep in existence, not letting the child become less of the person they are to become and up keep in different areas of your child’s life. A mother maintaining her child might mean, if she has a husband, to stop working or reduce her working hours. If she does not have a husband, take on more extra work or hours to maintain her children.

Organising: mother are always organising their children be it for school, weddings, parties, play, homework, family outing, play date, family reunions, etc. Having an organisation skill comes naturally for a mother. In most cases, without organisation there is chaos. For most mother, even in the chaos, they seem to know what is going on and how to manage the situation.

Teaching/Training: which mother does not teach her child because every mother teaches her child. Children learn from their parents, and most epically, when they spend more time with mother, they learn from her. A mother is there to pass on wisdom, knowledge, ideas, skills and abilities to her child. This can either be for good or for bad, which is down to the mother’s choice, most importantly as long as she is teaching her child. Not wanting to say 100% but when children are asked who taught them certain things, the response is “my mum”.

Homely: being homely is being welcoming, hospitable or hostly. Most children look forward to having their mother at home. Children know and identify that mothers are more lenient than father and it not because they choose to but because they are emotional beings. In most cases, biology will have mother cry over their children and attachment theorist such as Freud, Vygotsky and Piaget put the mother as the centre piece of child developmental theories.

Encouraging: mother’s do not like their children being perceived as unhappy, so what do they do. They encourage by supporting, being positive and building confidence. A mother will encourage her child by driving from one activity to another. In most cases, she inspires her children and coaches them to be better at the gift and talents they have. She praises her child of the good and great things s/he is doing and always want the best for her child.

Resting/Reassuring: which child does not like to rest on the bosom of his/her mother. This provides a soothing, calming and comfortable balance for the child. Showing to the child that, ‘thou I may tell you off or correct you or do not accept some behaviour you may display,’ I love you.

So why MOTHER’s day? Mothers that have harmed their children are viewed as ‘out of the norm’ or psychotic. Regardless of it being your choice or not, how you became or did not become a mother, every female creature has the tendency to be a mother, and so you are one.

Feedbacks In Childcare Business

It takes a brave childcare company to ask for feedback from parents or clients as you do not know what to expect. Most expect a positive feedback or are too scared to ask parent to give one if not sure of their childcare service.

Feedback is a great way of:suggestion, feedback

  • Improving your child care service.
  • Getting FREE recommendation that can help your service.
  • Providing parents/clients a positive approach to express their concerns.
  • Telling your side of the story.
  • Letting you know what is working or not working, which can help save money/human resources/time.
  • Letting parents/clients know that their contribution is important.

Note, it is important that when feedback is given, an action and a result should be derived from the feedback. Let use the example of Eden Mobile Creche, when the company started we only provided a full creche service. However, we got a lot of feedback for the need of childcare staff only service. This service met the needs of clients with smaller budget or clients that have venues with toys but not the qualified childcare staff. This feedback helped Eden Mobile Creche add a new childcare service. Feedback can also be a sudden trend or the most request service by parents or clients.

Feedback for childcare business can help make the business grow positively. An example of getting feedback within a nursery school is providing parent with a yearly form, which can be a questionnaire format or suggestion. Forms can remain anonymous to give parents privacy. This is beneficial to the early years setting as it provides an opportunity identifying what parents are happy with and what they are not. A man once told me he only knew a client was not happy with his service when he gets a call from another company asking for the clients’ folder to be transferred. It does not have to get to the point of parents removing their child from an early years setting before problems are identified. A feedback process can help reduce this possibility.

In conclusion, let a matured member of staff deal with feedback. A people person, which may not be the must senior member of the team. However, some feedback will need senior management attention to get the desired result.