On a particular day, I was on the train going to a meeting in London. A group of primary school children got on the train in Mile End. One of them had a visual impairment and guided by an adult whom I believe is the teacher. Three of the children sat on my left side, and one of them decided to pick the newspaper to read.
To my surprise, the teacher told him to stop reading the paper and to put it down. From his body language/observation, the boy wanted to ask why but said ‘yes Miss’. While I was giving the teacher the cold look of why?; that’s how you make a child display disruptive behaviour, and holding back my tongue. Another adult supervising the children noticed this child putting the paper down but encouraged him to go on reading. The boy said ‘Miss told me to put it down.’ This adult turned to the teacher and asked my thoughtful question, why? Her response, ‘we can not control the content in the newspaper.’ The other adult said, ‘oh’. My thoughts responded, ‘are you kidding me.’ At this time of the morning, 95% of the newspaper in the train carriage is metro. This got me thinking about the political correctness of the education system and wanting to put filters in every area of it. If the children were disruptive with the newspaper, this action by the teacher would be justified. What happened to;
- Asking the child, what are you reading?
- Having a look at the newspaper before concluding on the action to take.
- Directing the child to a more child-friendly page.
- Engaging the child in educational discussion linked to the curriculum.
What is happening in education? I seem to be getting more dissolution with manufactured educators and the deteriorating of common sense in education. OR am I wrong?
It has been said that home schooling gives parents more control over the influences that affect their children. With home schooling, a parent alone can decide what the child needs to do or learn. Tailoring the teaching program to suit the lifestyle, needs and interests of the child are among the most obvious options for home schooling. A child that is home schooled has the benefit of focusing more hours to the subject that may be difficult without additional pressure. Learning time is spread out based on the needs, abilities and interests of the child. The child receives more quality time in a familiar and homely environment, free from peer pressure and making choices and decisions based on needs.
Competition is great for children, but when it comes to home schooling, this is limited or does not occur. This is also the case of interaction with peer groups. When it comes to teaching style, home schooling is very one way centred. Teaching is always focused on how children learn best, which can be great. However, it reduces the child’s ability to process information in different ways that the child is not used to. A child that learns through moving objects or kinesthetic may find it challenging processing information that may include discussion or social activity.
When children are home schooled it allows parents the control over the moral, beliefs and ideologies instilled in their child. From a parent’s standpoint, this ensures there is no confusion in the child’s mind and no variation between what is being taught and what is being practised.
Schools are an excellent environment for children to develop different views, interact and learn something different outside their circle. However, parents that opt for home schooling are disillusioned with the system. They believe that children are being pushed too hard or too little. However, when children are in an excellent school system, they are welcome to try different experiences, activities, discipline and ethics.
There are pros and cons of homeschooling your child. Is it an option? Yes, it is if you have the time, lifestyle, finances, ability and interest to follow through with the education. After all, nobody can understand or appreciate your child as much as you.
So much has been written about children’s behaviour or the managing of behaviour in children. Behaviour is an action, reaction, display of character or response. Good behaviour, however, is what is acceptable to the adult caring for a child at any particular time. What is good behaviour, when it comes to children? Is it when children follow the instruction given to them without any fuss or complain to the adult; Or when they are being rewarded for participating in something positive. In most cases, ‘do as you are told’, shows you are of good behaviour.
A child being described as showing good behaviour is the perception of the adult the child is trying to please. Children who are abused or groomed sexually, have been told by their abuser that when they are ‘good’ or ‘behave’ they will be rewarded positively. This scenario shows that the good behaviour of the child is based on what the adult demands from him or her. Does this mean it is right? Of cause not but in the eye of the child, this behaviour is rewarded positively. That means it must be good and acceptable. Some children are overly nice and helpful, which has gotten them into more inconvenience. A case comes to mind of a child who helped another child during an exam. The helpful child had finished her exam paper but noticed that the child sitting next to her was finding it difficult, so decided to help. Other children have been nasty in fighting off a bully, which at the time was seen as appropriate behaviour for defending themselves.
What am I saying? The onus of a child showing good behaviour falls entirely on the adult. In simple term, adults are responsible for developing effective behaviour in children. A child cannot just develop good behaviour overnight, or throughout their developmental years without any definitive guide or input from the adult. Rather, s/he responds to the adult who is responsible for caring and developing him/her. Whatever the adult pours into the child is what the child bears. When a toddler swears, the adult caring for the toddler is responsible for that pattern of behaviour based on what he/she is exposed to.
Do personality and genetics plays a part in the behaviour of children? Maybe. Some parents have said ‘my child is naturally good and well behaved’ while others have said ‘out of all my four children, my third child is the most difficult.’ It can be debated that the birth position of the child, the socioeconomic level of the family, the time frame of when the child was born and many other factors affected the behaviour of the child. The debate can go on. The majority of the time, one thing is for certain. The behaviour of the child, whether good or bad, rests solely on the adult. According to Emilie Buchwald, “Children are made readers on the laps of their parents.”
Most parent are interested in teaching their child how to save money or the worth of money. Parents ask, ‘When can I start teaching my child the worth or value of money?’ OR ‘At what age can I teach my child about money?’ OR ‘How can my child have a practical understanding of money?’ I understand that children are taught numeracy at school from about age four and by the time they get to year 1 class they are introduced to using pennies to add or subtract, however, this is theory and not practical. I understand that some parents or childcare practitioners may say “children have role play or play shop in the pretend area” but as the name indicate, it is role play and pretend.
How do we actually teach children to understand the value of money? There has been debate about introducing money matters into UK secondary schools with the help of money advisers, accountants or stock brokers visiting classes, but will this actually work. For me, this is still all practical and not real life experience. I feel parents have a greater role in teaching children the practical aspect of spending and saving money. I have come across parents that indicate they encourage their children to watch money matter programs such as Bloomberg and read stock market shares. These are all good steps in helping children understand money, however this can help in the long term rather than giving instant result.
As parents we give our children pocket money or outing money but how many of us do encourage our children to save, during the month, from their pocket money or return with change at the end of a school outing. Our children go on lots of school trips and are given money to buy souvenirs from their outing but how many parents ask for change left from the money buy the end of the day. Regardless of how much money that is given to children for school trip outing, be it £1.00 or £5.00, I feel parents should always ask for change. This is not an austerity action but rather a starting point in teaching children to save from whatever income they have. I have been trying to teach my 7 year old son money saving tips and always told him to have change from school trip money, regardless of how much was given to him. For the first school trip outings, of cause he spent the whole money, but with me repeating and encouraging him, he finally got it and had some change for me by the next school trip. Did I collect the change from him, of cause not, I asked him to put it in his piggy bank and that it was his to save.
I came across a 12 years old child that has just opened an account. She was very much excited about bieng able to remove money from her account but she was not sure how to put money into the account. My suggestion, children should have a piggy bank at home where they can save money from their pocket money and at the end of the month should be taken to the bank, by the parent, to save the money into their account. It is about developing a culture of giving into the saving accounts and not just collecting from it. Start your child, practically, on the money saving journey and get them into the habit of saving money.