5 Things A Woman Should Do While Having Children

1. Learn to Drive

Especially in a cosmopolitan town/city with inadequate public transportation. I believe women that have children and do not drive have extra special powers. For a woman with young children, driving is a necessity and not a luxury.

2. Be Economically Viable

Great that maternity leave payment, zero or work contract hours, and in some cases, government supported payment can help support women financially. Learning a skill or trade can contribute to keeping the cash flow coming in. There is always something to buy when you are out with your child or yourself. The internet is full of cash flow opportunities for women, however, ensure it is a genuine stream of income. It can be time to sharpen that passion or skill you have and make it financially viable.

3. Develop Professionally

This is called CPD, continuing professional development. When the child/ren are all of school age, what happens to you professionally? It is never too late to continue or start a new profession.

4. Positive Mind Feeding

Women tend to have low self-esteem, depression or psychosis during this period. Reading a book can help elevate this. Romantic or motivational books are suggestions as it feeds emotion positively and helps release feel good hormones. Also doing something you enjoy or a challenging task, when accomplished, can contribute to release these positive hormones.

5. Liaise with Professionals

Majority of professionals working with a woman while raising children are there to help and offer positive support to the family. Use these professionals to your advantage. We are glad for the World Wide Web but these individuals have gone through rigorous educational process and have hands on experiences that can be taped into to benefit you and your family.

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Is Home Schooling an Option?

It has been said that home schooling gives parents more control over the influences that affect their children. With home schooling, a parent alone can decide what the child needs to do or learn. Tailoring the teaching program to suit the lifestyle, needs and interests of the child are among the most obvious options for home schooling. A child that is home schooled has the benefit of focusing more hours to the subject that may be difficult without additional pressure. Learning time is spread out based on the needs, abilities and interests of the child. The child receives more quality time in a familiar and homely environment, free from peer pressure and making choices and decisions based on needs.

Competition is great for children, but when it comes to home schooling, this is limited or does not occur. This is also the case of interaction with peer groups. When it comes to teaching style, home schooling is very one way centred. Teaching is always focused on how children learn best, which can be great. However, it reduces the child’s ability to process information in different ways that the child is not used to. A child that learns through moving objects or kinesthetic may find it challenging processing information that may include discussion or social activity.

home schooling| rent adejuwonWhen children are home schooled it allows parents the control over the moral, beliefs and ideologies instilled in their child. From a parent’s standpoint, this ensures there is no confusion in the child’s mind and no variation between what is being taught and what is being practised.

Schools are an excellent environment for children to develop different views, interact and learn something different outside their circle. However, parents that opt for home schooling are disillusioned with the system. They believe that children are being pushed too hard or too little. However, when children are in an excellent school system, they are welcome to try different experiences, activities, discipline and ethics.

There are pros and cons of homeschooling your child. Is it an option? Yes, it is if you have the time, lifestyle, finances, ability and interest to follow through with the education. After all, nobody can understand or appreciate your child as much as you.

Why M.O.T.H.E.R’s Day?

A day set aside to celebrate women becoming a mother either through childbirth or adoption is a day not to be taken lightly. Not all female choose to become a mother. Some not by choice while other choose not to be and who are we to judge.

www.rennyadejuwon.comBeing a mother is not an easy task as the onus falls on her to have the responsibility of the child, in her care, for the rest of her life. The burden falls on her firstly, because of the biological attachment to the child for nine months. A fetus is growing in her and developing from egg to a full grown human baby. The female then goes through the pushing out of this full grown baby through a path way that is had to believe such will come out. During this process, the opportunity of being called a mother can be short lived, labelled or realised. It depends on the result gotten from seconds, minutes or hours of child birth either through still birth, losing the child; a special or learning difficulty need; or a healthy baby. She becomes responsible for this child, for the rest of her life. With the title, responsibilities such as:

Maintaining: the child in your care is part of being a mother. Maintain means to keep in the right condition, keep in existence, not letting the child become less of the person they are to become and up keep in different areas of your child’s life. A mother maintaining her child might mean, if she has a husband, to stop working or reduce her working hours. If she does not have a husband, take on more extra work or hours to maintain her children.

Organising: mother are always organising their children be it for school, weddings, parties, play, homework, family outing, play date, family reunions, etc. Having an organisation skill comes naturally for a mother. In most cases, without organisation there is chaos. For most mother, even in the chaos, they seem to know what is going on and how to manage the situation.

Teaching/Training: which mother does not teach her child because every mother teaches her child. Children learn from their parents, and most epically, when they spend more time with mother, they learn from her. A mother is there to pass on wisdom, knowledge, ideas, skills and abilities to her child. This can either be for good or for bad, which is down to the mother’s choice, most importantly as long as she is teaching her child. Not wanting to say 100% but when children are asked who taught them certain things, the response is “my mum”.

Homely: being homely is being welcoming, hospitable or hostly. Most children look forward to having their mother at home. Children know and identify that mothers are more lenient than father and it not because they choose to but because they are emotional beings. In most cases, biology will have mother cry over their children and attachment theorist such as Freud, Vygotsky and Piaget put the mother as the centre piece of child developmental theories.

Encouraging: mother’s do not like their children being perceived as unhappy, so what do they do. They encourage by supporting, being positive and building confidence. A mother will encourage her child by driving from one activity to another. In most cases, she inspires her children and coaches them to be better at the gift and talents they have. She praises her child of the good and great things s/he is doing and always want the best for her child.

Resting/Reassuring: which child does not like to rest on the bosom of his/her mother. This provides a soothing, calming and comfortable balance for the child. Showing to the child that, ‘thou I may tell you off or correct you or do not accept some behaviour you may display,’ I love you.

So why MOTHER’s day? Mothers that have harmed their children are viewed as ‘out of the norm’ or psychotic. Regardless of it being your choice or not, how you became or did not become a mother, every female creature has the tendency to be a mother, and so you are one.

Am I a good parent?

Of cause every parent try their possible best to impact on their child’s life positively. Some parents are natural at being parents, while others do their best and others are crying out for help. As parents I feel we all need some help at some stage regardless of if we are the best or worse parent. Getting help can be direct or indirectly. Direct help can involve asking support from a professional childcare practitioner be it a counsellor, teacher, educationalist, nursery nurse etc.  Indirect help can involve learning from other parents, friends or families experiences on how they dealt with certain issues with their children. You have not ask for help directly but from what was shared you were able to pick one or two things that could help your parenting skills.Parent.Child

I asked the question, Am I a good parent? My definition of a good parent, for today, is someone that can reflect on their parenting skills. See what is working and what is not and is willing to improve on it. We all aim to be the perfect parent but if you do not reflect on your parent skills, you and your child might be heading for troubled times ahead. Reflecting on your parenting skills can include:

  • Changing the way you talk to your child as he/she develops. Is it that you were quite soft but now you need to be firm or you were quite firm but now you need to negotiate.
  • Listening to your child’s opinion, sharing yours and concluding on the one that best suite your child at this point in time.

Reflecting on our parenting skills helps us to become better parents and helps us to develop, knowing we are making progress for ourselves and children’s seek.