Is Home Schooling an Option?

It has been said that home schooling gives parents more control over the influences that affect their children. With home schooling, a parent alone can decide what the child needs to do or learn. Tailoring the teaching program to suit the lifestyle, needs and interests of the child are among the most obvious options for home schooling. A child that is home schooled has the benefit of focusing more hours to the subject that may be difficult without additional pressure. Learning time is spread out based on the needs, abilities and interests of the child. The child receives more quality time in a familiar and homely environment, free from peer pressure and making choices and decisions based on needs.

Competition is great for children, but when it comes to home schooling, this is limited or does not occur. This is also the case of interaction with peer groups. When it comes to teaching style, home schooling is very one way centred. Teaching is always focused on how children learn best, which can be great. However, it reduces the child’s ability to process information in different ways that the child is not used to. A child that learns through moving objects or kinesthetic may find it challenging processing information that may include discussion or social activity.

home schooling| rent adejuwonWhen children are home schooled it allows parents the control over the moral, beliefs and ideologies instilled in their child. From a parent’s standpoint, this ensures there is no confusion in the child’s mind and no variation between what is being taught and what is being practised.

Schools are an excellent environment for children to develop different views, interact and learn something different outside their circle. However, parents that opt for home schooling are disillusioned with the system. They believe that children are being pushed too hard or too little. However, when children are in an excellent school system, they are welcome to try different experiences, activities, discipline and ethics.

There are pros and cons of homeschooling your child. Is it an option? Yes, it is if you have the time, lifestyle, finances, ability and interest to follow through with the education. After all, nobody can understand or appreciate your child as much as you.

Why M.O.T.H.E.R’s Day?

A day set aside to celebrate women becoming a mother either through childbirth or adoption is a day not to be taken lightly. Not all female choose to become a mother. Some not by choice while other choose not to be and who are we to judge.

www.rennyadejuwon.comBeing a mother is not an easy task as the onus falls on her to have the responsibility of the child, in her care, for the rest of her life. The burden falls on her firstly, because of the biological attachment to the child for nine months. A fetus is growing in her and developing from egg to a full grown human baby. The female then goes through the pushing out of this full grown baby through a path way that is had to believe such will come out. During this process, the opportunity of being called a mother can be short lived, labelled or realised. It depends on the result gotten from seconds, minutes or hours of child birth either through still birth, losing the child; a special or learning difficulty need; or a healthy baby. She becomes responsible for this child, for the rest of her life. With the title, responsibilities such as:

Maintaining: the child in your care is part of being a mother. Maintain means to keep in the right condition, keep in existence, not letting the child become less of the person they are to become and up keep in different areas of your child’s life. A mother maintaining her child might mean, if she has a husband, to stop working or reduce her working hours. If she does not have a husband, take on more extra work or hours to maintain her children.

Organising: mother are always organising their children be it for school, weddings, parties, play, homework, family outing, play date, family reunions, etc. Having an organisation skill comes naturally for a mother. In most cases, without organisation there is chaos. For most mother, even in the chaos, they seem to know what is going on and how to manage the situation.

Teaching/Training: which mother does not teach her child because every mother teaches her child. Children learn from their parents, and most epically, when they spend more time with mother, they learn from her. A mother is there to pass on wisdom, knowledge, ideas, skills and abilities to her child. This can either be for good or for bad, which is down to the mother’s choice, most importantly as long as she is teaching her child. Not wanting to say 100% but when children are asked who taught them certain things, the response is “my mum”.

Homely: being homely is being welcoming, hospitable or hostly. Most children look forward to having their mother at home. Children know and identify that mothers are more lenient than father and it not because they choose to but because they are emotional beings. In most cases, biology will have mother cry over their children and attachment theorist such as Freud, Vygotsky and Piaget put the mother as the centre piece of child developmental theories.

Encouraging: mother’s do not like their children being perceived as unhappy, so what do they do. They encourage by supporting, being positive and building confidence. A mother will encourage her child by driving from one activity to another. In most cases, she inspires her children and coaches them to be better at the gift and talents they have. She praises her child of the good and great things s/he is doing and always want the best for her child.

Resting/Reassuring: which child does not like to rest on the bosom of his/her mother. This provides a soothing, calming and comfortable balance for the child. Showing to the child that, ‘thou I may tell you off or correct you or do not accept some behaviour you may display,’ I love you.

So why MOTHER’s day? Mothers that have harmed their children are viewed as ‘out of the norm’ or psychotic. Regardless of it being your choice or not, how you became or did not become a mother, every female creature has the tendency to be a mother, and so you are one.

Helping Children Manage Failure Positively

The word FAIL has been the acronym to ‘First Attempt In Learning’. This means the possibility of not getting things right the very first time is guaranteed. Let’s start from the very first time a baby latch on the breast. Most mothers have mentioned it took some adjusting for both them and the baby. Moving on to a toddlers’ first step, sitting up or trying a new food taste. All these instances show failing is part of the human development and journey of life, but what makes the difference is how individually we deal with the challenge. I have seen parents given up on the first try at introducing new food to children while others have gone on to successes with the right support.

As children grow, they will fail in friendship, relationships, task, accomplishment, homework, class work, sports and different types of activities. However, we as parents should be there to provide the help and support needed during the situation. The first major exams my son wrote, was the first time he dealt with failure. He did not make the marks needed for certain schools. He cried so much as this was very upsetting for him. When asked why he felt this way he indicated he had let us his parents down and felt he did so well on the day of the exam. As parents what did we do to help him during this process?fail

  1. Reassured him that he did not let us down, thou we would have loved him to make the marks needed.
  2. Prepare himself better for the next exam. Asked him what he thought were his weakness during exam, we then gave him the tools and techniques needed to improve these weaknesses.
  3. Told him, it was not the end of the world. Thou that opportunity was gone, there are more opportunities to come.
  4. Help build back his confidence. Focused and reminded him of other accomplishments he had achieved.
  5. Tell him failing is part of life but not to get stuck in it. To move on or try again at the task.

In the 2015 Wimbledon and 2016 Australian women tennis tournament, Sirena Williams has shown an A star behaviour of managing failure. Although as of when these games were played, she was the number one world female tennis played. When she came the runner-up and failed to reach the first place for these tournaments, she dealt with it gracefully. This example shows we all deal with failure, but how we deal with it is what makes us different. Helping children have an understanding of failure contribute to their output in life and seeing it from a positive perspective.

Dyslexia, What A Load of……

I remember at the age of 5 or 6 my dad asked me to spell ‘Cat’ and I found it quite difficult. I sounded it out phonetically but still found it hard to spell. He tugged my ear, and said, “listen to the sound”. It took him writing the word for me to actually spell ‘Cat’. I remember being told in university I was lazy in writing and spelling, and needed to use my dictionary more. I should listen more and teach myself how to read and write again. I later realised I enjoyed reading from back to front, I found it difficult identifying my left side from right and had to reminded myself by feeling a scar on my left palm before I knew left from right. This was my coping mechanism. Not too long ago someone identified I am creative with visualising things, which I did not notice.

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Due to the lack of understanding dyslexia, many children and teenagers still have stories like this. The debate by educationalist and theorist is endless (Read), one side suggest there is nothing like dyslexia while others suggest it exist. Institutions label children of having learning difficulties and not identifying their dyslexia. In educational learning and working with children there are three major different learning styles, visual, kinesthetic and auditory. Why hasn’t this been applied to dyslexia? Identifying that some children are creative and maybe have different way of reading and spelling.

While studying Applied Child Psychology one of the modules was on phonetics and how children learn to spell. One fundamental lesson was based on how some children spell phonetically while others learn by memorizing the words. This should be considered and applied into classes by teachers identifying children that learn phonetically or by memorizing words. Children should not be labeled wrongly for having dyslexia but rather teaching should be creative in the class room to help children reach their full potential. Children with dyslexia can be helped from a young age to become competent readers and writers but first the the right support needs to be provided. 

37 Common Characteristics of Dyslexia and The British Dyslexia Association can be of help.

Why I Love Childcare

what is childcare, what is early years?

  • It is exploration.
  • It is imaginary.
  • It is creative.
  • It is impacting.
  • It is empowering.
  • It is mind opening.
  • It bridges connection.
  • It is the next generation.
  • It is playful.
  • It is childhood.
  • It is meaningful.
  • It affects everyone.
  • It is thoughtful.
  • It is developing relationship.
  • It is learning.
  • It is full of surprise.
  • It is colourful.
  • It is growth.
  • It is personality.
  • It is passion.